Relationships are so frustrating. It’s all euphoria and constantly being told how amazing you are and then everything plateaus and they start becoming more comfortable and less considerate and you’re left feeling like what the fuck, now that you’ve got it you’re not gonna try anymore?
I feel very… heartbroken. This time of year just makes me think about the boys I’ve really loved and how they’ve all broken my heart or how I fucked things up and broke my own
some nights are R E A L L Y hard so if you just gotta breathe and wrap yourself in a thousand blankets to stay safe, please please do that. keep breathing through this, you’ll be ok.
I find that broad, open ended questions work best when consulting a tarot reader, or when you want more than just yes or no. (If you’re reading for yourself and you’re only looking for a simple yes/no answer, then you do you!) As a tarot reader, I find it easier to guide my clients when they ask open ended questions. For example…
Don’t ask “Is he/she/they interested in me?” Ask:
“How should I express my interest?”
“What can I do to attract people that would be romantically interested in me?”
“What is holding me back from finding someone?”
“What do I need to change to find The One?”
Don’t ask “Will I get the job/promotion/award?” Ask:
“How can I make myself stand out as deserving of the promotion?”
“What qualities should I work on to make myself a better job applicant?”
“Where can I improve?”
Don’t ask “Is life going to get better?” (Yes!) Ask:
“What do I need to change to make my life better?”
“Why am I unable to move forward?”
“How can I move past what’s holding me back?”
Don’t ask “Should I leave my partner?” Ask:
“How can I find the problem in my relationship?”
“What do I need to do to overcome this problem?”
“What issue am I refusing to face?”
“How do I achieve a healthy relationship?”
Don’t ask “Will I do well in school?” Ask:
“How can I achieve my goals?”
“What pitfalls might I run into?”
Don’t ask “Should I choose A or B?” Ask:
“What are the risks of each option?”
“What are the benefits of each option?”
“Are there unexpected side effects I should look out for?”
“How do I be confident in my decision?”
Don’t ask “Are my partner and I compatible?” Ask:
“What can I do to work through our differences?”
“Where am I willing to sacrifice and where am I not?”
“What, if any, tension can I expect due to our differences?”
These questions can be tweaked to fit your specific situation! When I’m asked yes/no questions, I try and answer them. But I also elaborate using the alternative questions to provide a more helpful answer so clients can ultimately make their own decisions.
If you don’t know the best questions to ask, you can always just describe your problem and let your tarot reader handle the rest. If you’re reading for yourself, explore different aspects of your problem and see if you can turn it into a what/how/why question.
